Christina Aguilera is the first celebrity I remember being shocked at, due to the change in her size. As a teenager I followed her and Britney and loved their music. Dirty was amazing and that video in the boxing ring had me and likely most other girls my age trying our best to copy her dance moves.
A few years later she got a bit bigger and the media went crazy. I remember thinking omg she has got massive and wondering what happened. My older, some what wiser less media blind and definitely fatter self now sees she grew up and like us all her body changed. Looking at the photos of her supposedly fatter self I think she looks amazing and she is definitely not massive but pressure from the media, I assume, forced her to go back to a much thinner body. I think this may have been my first experience of how the media can influence your view on how a person looks.
Even if she chose to stay bigger, I shouldn’t have even blinked at her change other than to think she still looked fabulous. I feel ashamed that I was driven to have an opinion on how she looked and her body shape.
2 others that stick out are Kirsty Alley who has a long running battle with her weight and more local to me (media wise) was Fern Britton who was shredded to bits as she didn’t divulge that her weight loss was due to a gastric band. She was actually shamed and ridiculed for not telling the world this. She was told she was misleading her fans, from media sources who likely shamed her body shape for years.
Holly Willoughby has recently lost weight and had faced backlash that shes had the audacity to change her lifestyle and is no longer a ‘curvy’ idol. I mean seriously what is wrong with our society??!! It’s her body, she should be able to do what she likes.
Khloe Kardashian is another one who was constantly compared to her sisters and branded the ‘fat’ one. How ridiculous- look at these photos – she is beautiful in all!?
I wrote last month about how I involuntary reacted to a body shaming incident by not speaking up and feeling my presence in the room made it awkward for the shamers.
It made me think; I’d this my fault or theirs? Is it anyone’s?
I have always suffered from crippling low self esteem. Unless you really know me this will come as a surprise likely.
The talkative and crazy girl who overshares and wears loud make up and bright clothes could never have confidence issues…..
Even when I was thinner and at school, were I never struggled with my grades or passing exams, I did struggle with ‘fitting in’. I’m an introvert but funnily enough I had surrounded myself with extroverts and those who thrive on company.
I prefer closer friendships with a few people rather than a wide range of friends. This left me quite isolated as I surrounded myself with those who were the opposite. It likely made me come across as clingy and attention seeking but I have just always been more comfortable with one on one friendships. However a part of me longs to be able to have large groups of friends.
This has carried on as I’ve grown up but I’ve learned to embrace this and although I sometimes look at larger groups of friends out having drinks or going on holiday and think ‘how nice’ – I know being part of that would likely increase my anxiety to a level I don’t want to go back to.
I’ve been on a journey of body acceptance. I wouldn’t say I’m a huge advocate of body positivity for all or that I promote this at all times but I try to do this for me. I have been working on changing my mindset to love and accept all of me – physical and behavioural.
I read this tweet the other day from a girl who has obviously battled with her weight but has begun a journey to address this and now believes she used ‘body positivity to mask a dislike she had for her own body’
I still struggle with the argument that no one is happy fat. Is this true? Is it a mask and when you suddenly lose weight you can drop this and admit being fat to you is wrong?
I’ve been thin, chubby, fat and now verging obese. I have been happy, deliriously happy, sad and heartbroken but I don’t recall any of these feelings 100% relating to my size at the time. Yes I always thought being thin would change my life but in reality this is never the case – for me anyway.
Does this mean I’m hiding behind a mask and need to admit a truth to myself? Yes I would love to get some weight off and my size does get in the way of some aspects of my life but I genuinely don’t think it’s the key to my happiness?
This tweet from the girl who has lost her weight is quite judgemental – it shocked me that coming from a place where she felt she had to promote body positivity just to deal with her size – that she now feels it’s ok to tell others what’s ok and what’s not ok. I don’t know her full story though.
The recent cancer awareness campaign has also caused outrage as the claim is that obesity is directly related to cancer. There have been cries of body shaming and protests to remove this from the adverts.
I am a plus size blogger but as I’m getting older I try my best not to judge others. Everyone has their own journey, views and passions. I am trying to do everything with kindness which may make me boring and seen as having no real opinions. However I don’t like conflict, I don’t debate and I don’t know anyone else’s story.
It goes back to what I’ve always believed. Body positivity and loving yourself is a mental challenge not a physical one